Utopia's Swingers' Guidelines - So You Have More Fun..

The Golden Rule: "NO means NO!" Not Maybe...

Anyone, including yourself, may say "No" at any time, for any reason, without further explanation. If you’re in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say so - but be polite don't ruin your night. Never jeopardise your relationship, or the fun to be had with the life-style and never even consider doing anything against your will. Don’t submit to guilt or pressure - swinging is meant to be fun. Keep it that way. Flirting is also fun, and if that's all you want to do that's fine. Most importantly, be honest, and be up-front about what you're into, you're likes and dislikes. This should avoid any and all misunderstandings.

With new friends, always be kind and non-judgemental - it’s the best way to proceed. If you dont want to play when you first meet just say so, but remember you may reconsider and wish to party with them later - it's happened many times. So always keep your options open.

Everyone's been rejected at some time. If you have to do it, please be kind. If it happens to you don't take it personally. No-one fancies everybody. Just because someone is at a Swing Party, doesn't mean they have to swing with you. Keep your conversations upbeat and light and talk to as many people as you can. Who knows? The person who passes up the opportunity today, may want to swing with you next time!

Get to know your likes and dislikes, boundaries and strengths, and stick to them if you're new to the Scene. Encourage others in their explorations. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose, never impose! Swingers 'feel' their way through encounters in more ways than one. If things dont feel right, they probobly aren't - so just take a break for a while.

Deal with jealousy head-on. It’s a normal human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Festering jealousies are destructive. Tell each other how you feel straight away - do it quietly - and don't leave it 'til your driving home.

Let your partner know that he or she is always your Number One! Take time to talk to them. Be generous with a kiss and a smile. Check on each other often, so that you both feel safe and secure. Always arrive together - always leave together!

Use common sense and courtesy when you’re at Utopia. Be friendly, kind and thoughtful with a smile. Friendliness is contagious. Remember, the more people you make the effort to talk to, the more friends you'll make and maybe get to play with.

Respect the guidelines or boundries that your partner and play- friends set. Make your own wishes and desires clear before you start to play. There should be no surprises! If you’re 'Bi', for instance, ask if the couple or single you’re with has a similar interest. Likewise, if you really object to 'oral sex' or 'bondage', bring it up for discussion. Once everyone is comfortable with the plan, let the games begin!

Before, during and after you party, pay close attention to body language. There’s more to human interaction than just sexual signals, but that’s definitely part of the picture. Enhance your experience by considering the complete person. Learn to read the signs and you’ll pick up on what makes your partner or new friends comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately, satisfied.

DISCRETION IS PARAMOUNT ON THE SWING SCENE! Who you see, what you see and what you and everyone else does, MUST remain PRIVATE. Never, never discuss details with anyone not intimately involved. Promoting the lifestyle is wonderful. Publicising it is simply unforgivable.

Demand absolute discretion…... and be worthy of the same!